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The Self Coach: Your Emotional Intelligence Partner – Step Three – Pause

Imagine taking a 10 second Pause before you respond to a request from someone. Can you do it? Have you done it? If you have you know that it likely gave you the time to cool-down and think before you spoke. It is this very act of consciously pausing before responding, especially in potentially volatile … Continue reading

The Self Coach: Your Emotional Intelligence Partner – Step Two – Interpret

Step 2: Interpret  Step 1 focused on training the self-coach to be an astute observer.  So what do we do with all the data garnered through observation?  One of the things your rational brain does best is analyze information.  The purpose of analysis is to determine stimuli and patterns that are uniquely yours and to … Continue reading

The Self Coach: Your Emotional Intelligence Partner – Step One – Observe

If you are interested in improving your emotional intelligence, just where do you begin?   7 Skills for Self-Coaching  1)      Observe    2)   Interpret    3)      Pause    4)      Direct    5)      Reflect                       6)      Celebrate    7)      Repeat By becoming skilled in these steps, the self-coach can guide you to live in a more emotionally intelligent way.  With practice and patience, … Continue reading

The Self-Coach: Your Emotional Intelligence Partner

If you are interested in improving your emotional intelligence, just where do you begin?  The doorway to emotional intelligence opens with self-awareness.  Self-awareness is our ability to understand ourselves and then to use that information to completely live our intentions. If you are interested in buying a home, you first see that home from the … Continue reading

Emotions: What Are they?

Let’s not forget that the little emotions are the great captains of our lives and we obey them without realizing it. – Vincent Van Gogh Generally in our society, we describe emotion in terms of feelings.  You may feel happy that Friday afternoon is approaching.  A coworker may feel angry that she received a poor … Continue reading